5 Tips for a good relationship

After 15 years of marriage, i think i have finally cracked the code ! For the past one week my son is away with his grandparents. This gave me the time & the opportunity to reflect on the great times i have shared with my wonderful wife.

Unlike many marriage counselors / gurus I will not make any attempt to remind people that their love life is nowhere as exciting as it used to be. Far from it , I believe that if you are reading this article you are certainly in the majority who are having a wonderful relationship going. This article will only look at few attitudes & techniques which will enhance this love.

My bagful of love tips:

• Do not accept the partner with all his/her faults. The word accept shows contempt & this is not good for any relationship. Change the statement/ attitude to ” I Welcome him/her into my life in just the way he/she is”. The word Welcome will trigger positive emotions is our body, which the partner is sure to feel.
• Keep a box for old greeting cards, souvenirs of memorable trips , photographs etc. This box of memories are sure to brighten up your evenings even after many years.
• Do an unplanned activity once a fortnight. This is guaranteed to bring a lot of spark into the relationship. For sure some things will go wrong when we do things out of the blue, but these experiences will keep the love young & flaming.
• Not all women want quality time & not all men want only sex. Take time out to find out your partners love language. Your partner may have any of the following love languages.

1. Quality Time
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch.

Speaking to your partner in their love language is the biggest secret to a lasting relationship. I learned about these love languages about 6 years back from a book called ” 5 love Languages” written by Gary Chapman.

http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

The last one, Share a common goal. Discuss your goals & dreams with your partners. Working on a goal together is the best thing that can happen in a relationship.

Now ! I know what you are thinking, I bet you want to show this to your partner because you still think it is he or she who needs to change. Well, haven’t we discussed contempt before (ha ha..)!